6 Motivational Quotes for Success!

Tuesday, August 2, 2016

Motivational Quotes

 
We all need a little pick-me-up from time to time. Quotes are my favorite way to get the internal ball rolling. Today I'm sharing just a few quotes from my collection. Often times I will save quotes to my phone so I can reflect back on them. Enjoy!
 
 







3 Tips On Letting Go of The Past

Saturday, October 10, 2015


The past can be an ugly word. It's riddled with all of our mistakes, mishaps, and embarrassing moments. We often use the word past as a negative remark, as if it's a little monster who lives under our bed. Or, for some of us, our past is no little monster, but a King Cobra ready to strike at any moment, reminding us of the chaos we've either created or lived through.

But, the truth is, the past can help you. Hear me out. I'm as guilty as everyone else, my past decisions have been ridiculous, to say the least. I have made some whopper of decisions that have landed me in heaps of trouble, or worse, heartache. And, some of my past is tainted by the decisions of others, casting shadows of distrust, sadness, and crushing disappointments. Yet, here I am! Happy, fulfilled and bright-eyed about life and my future. Why? Well, because I've learned lots of different secrets along the way. Let me share 3 with you today:

 

1. Learn to Walk Away


The other day I was walking through the mall looking for my hair salon. Moments before I found the salon I saw a past business partner who betrayed me deeply and caused a lot of pain for myself and my family. This individual took advantage of me and truly taught me a brutal lesson on life, trust, and business; not a fun lesson, I might add. For a slight moment I wanted to run up to him and talk about the good 'ol days and catch up on life and family. I didn't harbor any bad feelings towards this individual, in fact, I quite missed him. But, the other part of me wanted to turn in another direction and avoid him like I do bees (I hate bees, for the record). I chose the second option. I quickly pivoted my feet and swiftly avoided such a confrontation. Why would I want to rehash the past? Why would I want to bring up old emotions, either good or bad? It's unhealthy and unnecessary. When it comes to the past, you sometimes need to be prepared to walk away from it; the people, the job, the circumstances, the life. Like me, you need to pivot your feet and head in a new direction. Trust me, you'll thank me later for it.

2. Learn to Laugh


I tried out for the high school cheerleading team my freshman year. I was a great candidate. I had already done cheerleading at my previous school, I loved it, and I was good at it, but I was at a new school with an entirely different set of classmates. The competition was stiff and I let my nerves get the better of me. During the tryouts I crashed and burned...in an awful way. I literally cheered the wrong words and I accidentally ended up rhyming the word "Luck" with an often used curse word I currently favor. The judges looked shocked, a few giggles came from the crowd, and I was mortified. Let's just say, I didn't make the team. Yet, that experience taught me a valuable lesson. It's good to laugh at yourself. I didn't laugh that night, or even for months after the tryouts; but I sure laugh about it now. It serves as a valuable reminder that you can make a critical mistake, like cussing during cheer tryouts, and LIFE goes on.

 

3. Learn to Love Yourself


Here's the raw truth: YOU ARE NOT PERFECT. No one is, yet we hold ourselves to these ridiculously high standards in looks, personality, job titles, weight, education, family, etc. At my current age, I've learned to love myself in spite of my past mistakes.  I ran into an old classmate a few years ago and she was literally walking in the hypnotized allure of "having it all." She bragged about her life as if it were a job interview instead of a casual run-in. She laid her life out on the table for me, the perfection of it: her marriage, her life, her looks, her money. I listened patiently even though, at that time, my own life was in shambles, I was overweight, and I was counting pennies (seriously) moments before we bumped into each other.  She never asked about me or my life, she only wanted to do a quick "My Life is Perfect" data dump and walk away. Trust me, I was glad I didn't have to talk about my life. But, years later, I learned that her life wasn't as perfect as she made it out to be; not even close. She was stuck competing with her past, and, she wasn't any happier for it.

So, here's the real meat and potatoes of today's blog post. Your past is what created YOU. The awesome, flawed, wonderful, beautiful, silly, crazy, YOU. And, honestly, that's the beauty of your past. You can move on. Life does go on. You can, and must, become everything you are meant to be. So, learn to walk away from you past (people or circumstances), learn to laugh at it (I do this daily!), and learn to love yourself.

God Bless. Until next time my friends.



3 Tips on Overcoming DOUBT and Living your Dreams!

Monday, September 21, 2015



Today, I did a Periscope on these three tips, so I thought I'd share this information on my blog. For those of you that don't know what Periscope is...well...it's AWESOME! It's a new Social Media platform that allows you to do live broadcasts to the world. Yes, the world. It's amazing. And fun. And addicting. But, I'm not writing on Periscope today. I'm writing about the 3 Tips for overcoming DOUBT.

Ugh. Doubt. It's a dirty word in all areas of life, but when it comes to pursuing your goals and dreams it's as fun as dirty dishes and dirty underwear. They stink and no one wants to deal with them. So, here are 3 Tips based on my live Periscope today.

1. Prayer


The first thing I do when doubt seeps into my psyche is pray. Some people prefer to meditate or relax with no noise, and that's okay too. But, for me, I need prayer. I take time to talk with God and let Him know that I am trying to use my talent(s) for good. I express my desire to overcome the doubt and I ask for a refreshing in my mind to help me focus on my goals or dreams. It works every single time. Today, on my live Periscope I had several people chime in that prayer is the cornerstone to their success as well. So, it works. I use it. Daily.

2. Friendship


This is a big one. Surround yourself with people who will encourage you, not discourage you. There are plenty of people in the world who will tell you that your ideas are nonsense or rubbish. To them, I laugh. To those people, I slowly weed them out of my life. Find a group of supportive women or men that fulfill the need to encourage, inspire, and uplift you. I have a VERY strong group of friends. I have business friends, work friends, spiritual friends, funny friends, dreamer friends, and so on. I have some friends who fulfill all of these needs and others who fulfill only one, but I surround myself with positive influences and you should too. If you don't have a group, make one. Find them online through Instagram and Facebook (or Periscope) if possible. But, surround yourself with light and goodness because it will help you through the darkness that comes with doubt.

3. Desire


Doubt can seep in when you have lost the desire to pursue your goals. You need to take a match to flame the fire of desire once again. This is very hard to do when the road gets tough and messy. I know because I've been there. You need to take action with this tip. Write out a list of reasons why you started in the first place. Keep a 30 day Journal of Dreams and write out one reason you want to keep going with your dream. Remember, doubt kills dreams.

These are just 3 Tips on overcoming doubt in pursuing your dreams. I enjoyed doing my live broadcast on Periscope this morning. I hope you will continue to watch and listen to me daily. Don't forget I'm launching my #DreamUP Series on October 15th. Sign up to be on our mailing list!

As always, Good Luck and God Bless!

Carol

3 Marketing Tips for Your Business (and less stress for you!)

Saturday, September 19, 2015


We've all heard it before. The seductive calls from the siren of "Working From Home" on the shores of "I hate my job." But, not many take the plunge.  And the ones who do take the risk are struggling. WHY IS THIS?

Since I'm a successful business woman I get cornered at EVERY event I attend from someone who is trying to run an MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) business or they are trying to launch onto the internet with a business idea or product, and they all ask me the same question: "WHY AM I NOT MAKING MONEY?"

The answer is not the same for everyone. But, it typically falls on the doorstep of Marketing 101 or lack of proper execution. Here are some basic pointers on how to revamp your business marketing plan.

1. Think Outside of the Box


I preach this over and over and over again, but I still feel like no one is listening to me. I promise, it works. You've got to reach outside of the norm of what everyone else is doing. Where is your service or product needed? Who is your ideal candidate or consumer? Create a wish list of ideal customers then decide where they meet. THIS IS EASY! Now, go market in those areas. For example, if you are selling   Christian Jewelry pieces then you should be selling at every local boutique and you should contact the local pastors/preachers in your area and discuss options for them to use your pieces as a fundraising event where they possibly get a portion of the sales (win-win scenario). Or how about the church bookstore? Or, maybe you could sponsor the woman's group? You see, the potential to think outside of the box is endless. Now, get moving and make that wish list!

2. Get the Proper Training (yes, pay for it!) 


There are so many AWESOME training videos available online through reputable people. I just read an article this morning about a young woman who made 1.2 million dollars in her first year of her online business. That amount of money sounds nice about now, wouldn't you agree? But, she credits her success to the hours and hours she invested in online training videos and seminars. Listen, there is an old adage that says, "You've got to spend money to make money" and in this instance that's true. Take a course and watch it over and over again. Really apply the principles it teaches you. I've found online courses that run as low as $40! You can't beat that. So, you skip a date out with your hubby. I promise, it's worth the money.

3. Podcasts are for the Pro's


Now that I've lectured you on paying for help, now I'm going to lead you to a FREE SOURCE of knowledge and inspiration. Podcasts. If you aren't listening and subscribing to speakers in your field, you are behind! Get moving. Take your business serious by listening to a podcast that will increase your business knowledge. These are FREE. And, everyone loves free, right?

Okay, so it's time to get moving with your business. These were just three tips to get you busting a move on your biz. Remember, Rome wasn't build in a day, but, darn, in this day and age you can make a fantastic living running your own business. Stay tuned for more AWESOME MARKETING TIPS from me and a soon to be launched MASTERMIND of MARKETING SUCCESS GROUP!

Good luck and God Bless!

How to be the Perfect Mom

Tuesday, September 1, 2015





Lately there has been an enormous amount of chatter on Social Media about what constitutes the "Perfect Mom". So I thought I'd add a few tidbits to the static. Pay close attention. This is very serious. I mean, I didn't become a perfect mother overnight. But, I promise, if you follow my advice...well...let's just say, you'll be close to perfect.

1. Always Put Your Child's Needs First

For example, I just picked up my fifteen-year-old daughter from high school and she said she was "hungry"; so, naturally, I told her it was much more important that I get my nails done. I did, afterall, have a 4:00pm nail appointment and it was 3:45pm. Her hunger can wait, right? But, I did give her an open bag of Dorito's I had stashed  at the bottom of my purse. See, I'm always thinking of them first.

2. Speak Kindly to Your Children 

Your words are like daggers and your children need nourishment and reassurance that you love them no matter what. Let me explain, just last week I woke up my teenage son to tell him his room was a mess and he was living like a pig. I once yelled so loud at my children I lost my voice for two weeks. And, yes, I almost forgot, I have a wonderful habit of walking into my room and slamming the door on them if I don't want to hear what they are saying. Ah, perfection. I can almost hear the jealousy rising in the mothers reading this article. But, alas, continue reading.

3. Always Make Your Children Your Top Priority

Oh, this is a good one. I often like to ditch my family entirely and go to a movie with a good friend. I buy a large buttery popcorn and a Coke. I hang out way too long with my friend laughing about life, work, marriage, and motherhood. Sometimes I come in well after 1 am. Hey, but I always remember to bring them the left over popcorn. That's what a perfect parent would do.

4. Always Keep a Good Eye on Your Children

Goodness knows, this is important. They need to feel like you will always keep them safe. Once I let go of my toddler son's hand for one second and he ran into oncoming traffic on a busy road. Perfection at its finest. Or, even better, once the same aforementioned son, climbed to the top of the stairs at a friends house and fell down creating a scene right out of a stunt devils handbook.Or, get this, once I locked my six-month-old daughter in the car on a hot, Arizona summer day and had to break the window to get her out. Like I mentioned, it's hard being a perfect parent.

5. Never Let Your Children Know Your Problems

It's not good for them to worry. I try my hardest to keep bad news from them. Like the time we had no money to fix our old, beat up Honda and they had to push start it everywhere we went. Or, the time we had to heat up water on the stove so we could take warm baths during the winter since our Gas had turned off and I didn't get paid for a few more days. Or, the time we got evicted and we had to move our stuff overnight.

6. Always Help Them Academically

This is a sure fire way for them to be successful. Your children need your support. For example, my college-age son needed our family computer to write up a report, but I told him he could use it after I finished watching Season 3 of "Lie to Me". See, I care about his academics. Or, the time my daughter needed me to sign a paperwork so she wouldn't get detention after school. Hey, for the record, I apologized when I picked her up from detention.

7. Teach Them to Love Others

You are their best example of how to love others. They are watching everything you do and say. Like the time I made an rude comment about a lady at church, or the time they heard me talk behind a neighbors back, or the time they heard me judge another person harshly, or the time I lied to get out of something, or the time they saw me flip off a bad driver, or the time I harshly judged another person. See, being a perfect parent isn't hard at all.

Conclusion:

I hope you learned a few good lessons from me. I assure you, I am a very talented, gifted, and let's not forget, perfect mother.  I have never lost them in a grocery store, or forgotten to feed them, or smacked them across the face, or humiliated them in front of friends, or hurt their feelings, or broken a promise to them, or been outright nasty to them.

Nope.

Never.

I am, after all, a perfect mother. 

The Karate-Chop Stripper

Saturday, July 4, 2015



I will never forget the Karate-Chop Stripper. How could I? She taught me a valuable lesson I've revisited in my mind over and over again. A lesson I'd like to pluck from edges of my psyche and give to the world. I think the world needs her right now.

The world needs to hear the story of the Karate-Chop Stripper.

I worked for a large Karate school in Arizona in my early 20's. I answered phones, checked in clients, took payments, made copies, sent faxes, and helped new Karate students fill out their paperwork. Easy. It took more brain power to pop a pimple than to do my job. So, it was refreshing when a super friendly, slightly overweight, and beautiful woman walked through the door inquiring about joining the karate school.

After a few pleasantries, I asked her what she did for a living. She looked around the room suspiciously as if secret agents were around the corner listening and said, "I'm a professional entertainer, if you know what I mean."

"Oh," I said meekly. I blushed. I got it. She was a stripper.

"Please keep it a secret," She asked me, giving me a wink.

"My lips are sealed," I said. Honestly, I never wanted to talk to her about it again. Ever.

But as the months went by she found ways to slip her job into the conversation. Here are a few examples.

"Boy is it hard to find work in Arizona. No one is interested in what I'm doing."

"The crowds can get rough in my line of work. I mean, I'm surprised people don't step in to help me."

"Business is slow. I might have to go back to California." 

Awkward. Right? I never knew what to say. Often my thoughts drifted towards a judgmental inner monologue. I wondered how she made a living. I was curious as to the type of men who called this plus-sized stripper for entertainment. She was after all a very large lady. I don't say this in anyway disrespectful, I'm just painting the picture for you. And, even though I wanted to give her suggestions that might help her in her line of work, I always kept quiet and just listened to her vent about the cruel world of stripping.

One day she walked into the dojo and asked if I could follow her to her car. I quickly clocked out and obeyed, unsure of what I was about to see. On the brief walk she said, "I'm losing money fast in Arizona. I figured I needed to make things more interesting. I bought some new props. Can you take a look at some of the new items I've bought for work?"

Before I could decline, she opened her trunk and pulled out a modern styled, A-line wig with blue highlights. I had seen wigs like this on many television shows and movies when a stripper was in her disguise.

"It's nice," I said. I was uncomfortable giving her advice on her stripper attire. "I bet that will work."

"Really? You think so?" She asked with hope in her eyes. "I also got some new makeup and stuff. I'm hoping that if I spruce thing up a little, it will work." She showed me some glitter and various objects that I glanced at for a quick second. I reassured her everything looked nice and quickly went back to work.

After a few months and several bizarre encounters with the Karate-Chop Stripper I actually really begin to like her. We talked about a lot of things. We laughed and truly became good friends.

Then, one day, she walked in with tears in her eyes. "I'm leaving Arizona. I just can't afford to stay here anymore. I haven't found work in a long time. There just isn't a market for my line of work here."

"I'm sorry," I said. I really was. I wanted to give her advice on marketing, but I didn't know the first thing about marketing a stripper or an escort. So, I just stood up and gave her a hug.

"I'm going to miss you,"I said.

"Carol, you have been such a good friend to me," She said. "You have always listened to me and helped me out. Please don't lose touch with me. Here is my business card. Please keep in touch."

She placed the business card upside-down, for obvious reasons, and walked out the door.

The minute I saw her drive away, curiosity took over and I grabbed her business card and turned it over. I had never seen a professional stripper's business card before. I was curious.

The business card had a picture of The Karate-Chop Stripper in the corner except she looked nothing like I thought. She was wearing the blue highlighted wig alright, but, she was also wearing CLOWN make-up! The words on the business card said: SPRINKLES THE CLOWN.

Yup. She was a professional clown! (queue the laughter)

I had been wrong all along. 

I had judged all wrong.

She was not a stripper but a professional clown!

I had used my limited information to make a judgement call I was certain of. I knew what I knew and you couldn't tell me any different. I was confident in judging an amazing individual and I had been completely wrong.

I often tell this story to get a rise out of people. Everyone laughs. It's a killer story at parties and some people lose it completely. I even had a professor ask to use this story for a Sociology Book.

So, why am I sharing this story now?

For one reason only. To clarify that we don't always have all of the information about why people do what they do. We don't live in their shoes. We haven't experienced their thoughts, upbringings, emotions, setbacks, and hardships. I guarantee we judge without a pure knowledge. We may think we have all of the pieces of the puzzle...but, we don't. We can't possibly.

Sprinkles the Clown taught me a very valuable lesson that day. Don't judge anyone. We can take a page from one of the things she told me, "You were a good friend and you always listened to me."

Let's strive to be good friends and great people instead of judgmental pricks (like me).

I think we could use a little more of that right now in the world.












Lessons Learned from a Graduation Ceremony

Friday, May 22, 2015



Graduation ceremonies can be summed up in one word: Chaos. Emotions are running high, patience is running low, crowds are ridiculously smothering,  and people are forced to sit by strangers for an exaggerated amount of time. Grandpa doesn't want to sit on the bleachers. Aunt Betty's arthritis is acting up and she forgot her medication. You forgot to charge the battery pack for the camera. There is a screaming baby in front of you (with a smelly diaper...or maybe that's grandpa...who knows). Bathroom lines are as long as Disneyland. It's either too hot or too cold. The speeches are boring and uninspiring. It's easy to see the negative in a moment we should be celebrating a momentous time in the life of a loved one. 

So, I decided this year to look for the positive lessons to be learned from graduation ceremonies. And, I was surprised by my own observations. Some made me laugh and others, well, they made me cry. So, here are 7 Life Lessons to Learn from a Graduation Ceremony.

1. There is always someone cheering you on (even if it's yourself). 


Every time a graduate's name was announced over the speaker,  somewhere in the bleachers a cheer would erupt. Sometimes the crowd was large, other times it was small.  People screamed at the top of their lungs, blew whistles, used blow horns, and even released balloons. Colorful signs dotted the crowd with Sharpie written names and funny sayings. I got choked up. 

It reminded me that in life, we all have a small crowd cheering us on. Whether it's our first day of chemotherapy, or we need a funny text message to ease a bad work day,  or we just need to have a Starbucks with a friend to vent about taxes; we all have our crowds. And, not all crowds are created equally. We each have different types of cheering sections for our lives. We have large crowds, like co-workers and church families, and smaller crowds like parents and best friends. But, each of us have a cheering section to help us navigate through the highs and lows of life. 

As a quick side note, I observed that some of the graduates upon standing on the podium with their diploma in hand would pump their fists in the air, celebrating themselves and their awesome accomplishment. Sometimes there will days when we have to cheer ourselves on, encouraging ourselves with our not-so-sane inner monologue of, "You can do this!" or "Way to go!"or "Get out of bed and brush your hair today". Hey, I have a lot of hair. Don't judge.

2. Impromptu moments will never be regretted


Last night at the graduation, one of the graduates stopped in the middle of the crowd and took a quick selfie of herself with the large crowd cascading behind her. It was brief, out of the ordinary, and I loved it! She felt the need to do it and obeyed. Impromptu moments or ideas ignite the soul to live. Do it. Obey your inner voice. You'll never regret doing so. 

3. Teachers do make a difference. 


As an adult, this sounds like an anthem to all educators. But, it is not. Not all teachers are good, I get it. But, listening to the speeches I could hear a distinct nod to the admirable teachers amongst us. They love their students, they believe in their students, and in return, their students love them. In the United States teacher's are not rightfully compensated (this is not up for debate); but, if I were one of the teachers in the crowd last night, I think my heart would've been full knowing I had impacted the vast sea of graduates before me. Yeah, I know that doesn't pay for that Hawaii trip, but I think the truly great teachers understand their impact has no value. It's priceless. 

My own son sat amongst the crowd of graduates last night and I couldn't help but think of a loving, selfless teacher who sacrificed her lunches and personal time to tutor him all year in math so he could graduate. When I asked him about it, he said, "She just believes in me". Ouch...my heart just grew a size for that woman. Teachers do make a difference.


4. Dream Crazy Dreams


One of my favorite moments was when of the speakers, a beautiful bright-eyed girl, said as advice to her fellow graduates, "Take a month off and see the world". The adults around me gasped as if she'd just told them to shoot up heroin through their toes. I could hear the crowd whisper, "Is she crazy?", "What horrible advice", "She doesn't live in the real world." I waited for the pitchforks and stoning to begin. The lady in front of me looked at her husband and rolled her eyes so exaggerated-like I thought for sure she was having some type of seizure. 

Here's the brutal, honest truth. They are jealous. They have lived their lives in a safe zone, never adventuring out to the unknown or unseen. They haven't done it, so they think no one else should as well. It's unpractical, not realistic, can't be done. Some of my favorite memories and greatest lessons have come from the moments I took the head-first leap towards my dreams. It was refreshing to hear this wise-beyond-her-years speaker give such noble advice. Dream Crazy Dreams.

5. Music makes everything better


The most breathtaking and moving rendition of "Come Thou Font of Every Blessing" was performed by a large chorale group and orchestra at my son's ceremony. Not a dry eye in the crowd could be found. I think God came and sat amongst the crowd to watch it, or better yet, he moved through the voices and the fingers of the musicians. Music has that kind of power. If you are a musician, remember that the power you have to create can literally change the world. You are masters of people's emotions and a part of their lives. Use your talent wisely. Music makes everything better. 

6. Not All Endings are Bad


Tears were shed last night. I was a blubbering idiot as my son's name was called. When I looked to my left and to my right other parents and grandparents were right there along with me. Wiping tears away. And, the graduates themselves hugged and cried at the end of the ceremony. As I watched from a distance I realized that the tears shed were happy and joyful. I realized that not all endings are bad. They are just the next step in the journey. This show may have ended, but they've got their bags packed and tickets paid for the next adventure to come. It helped me reflect on my own endings, whether it was relationships, jobs, houses, or whatever, they all prepared me for the next great step in life I needed to take. Not all endings are bad.

7. Face Your Fears


Every speaker said the same thing, "I am terrified of public speaking." They each gave their speeches, some boring, some funny, some with cracked voices, some with robot voices; but, I didn't judge. Why? Because they were facing their fears. I don't remember much of what was said but I remember how I felt. Inspired. 

That's right. I was watching an individual face one of their biggest fears and they didn't die in the process. They pushed through, strapped on their boots, put their big girl panties on, and did what had to be done. Face their fear. Wow.

8. Enjoy Life's Little Inconveniences


I'm not exaggerating, but I had to park almost one mile from the actual ceremony. I huffed and puffed about it the entire wind-infested walk to the ceremony (in high-heels, nonetheless). And, I dreaded the long walk back. I was quite negative about it. 

Then, all of my family left to get the party ready for my son, Tanner, which left me alone to wait for him to say his good-bye's to his friends and take last minute pictures. When Tanner finished, we made the long trek back to the car together and alone. And soon, Tanner was opening up about a modge-podge of different topics. His future. His college choice. His goals. His friends. His doubts. His fears. My dreaded walk went from a major inconvenience to one of the most memorable moments I've had with my child. I wouldn't trade that memory for anything. 

As soon as I got in the car I scribbled down this thought in my notepad. Enjoy life's little inconveniences. Truth be told, you never know what will come from them. For me, it was precious time with my son who will now be launching off on his own life's journey.

And, yes, I hope he takes one month off and sees the world. 

Heck, I might join him.